It is every woman’s wish to become a good wife and mother to their kids. However, this may be quite a challenge for some especially since there’s no user’s manual or guide to follow when it comes to motherhood.
Fortunately, we can give you a few tips on how to become a good wife and mother particularly if you are just starting out in your marriage. Just follow these tips and you will surely have an easier time with every challenge that comes your way from here on out.
ON BEING A WIFE:
1. FOCUS ON THE GOAL
The first thing that you need to remember is not to lose sight of your main goal. You are now a wife and will soon become a mother to your own kids. Everything that you do from here on out should be for them. Otherwise, you will fail at your task even before you begin.
2. Ask for Help
Secondly, do not be afraid to ask for help if and when necessary. In today’s day and age, their menu resources that you can use as well as people that you can meet to help you out as a new mother and wife. There’s nothing wrong with asking for help especially from those whom you know best.
3. Work as a Team
As a third tip, you should work together with your husband to build your family. To do this, you have to have an open communication line with him at all times. Do not be afraid to speak up when necessary and back down when you have to.
4. Learn to Consult
Remember that in a family, you do not have the sole opinion anymore. You have to learn to consult your husband in every decision that you make especially when it comes to the family.
5. Respect Your Husband’s Decisions
In addition to this, as a wife, always remember to respect your husband’s decisions. Give him the last say always. As his partner in life, this is your way of respecting him as a man.
6. Tell Him How You Feel
That being said, you should not be afraid to tell him how you feel about certain things prior to making a decision. If you want to be a good wife, you have to be as honest as possible, even if it hurts. He will learn to appreciate your opinions in the end for sure.
ON BEING A MOTHER:
7. Be There for Your Kids
When it comes to being a mother, the ultimate advice that we can give you is to be there for your kids. Allow them to be themselves but also protect them from harm as much as possible.
By doing this, you are not forcing the issue and allowing them to work through their problems on their own. This is what a mother should do ultimately.
In addition to this, try to be the best example that you can be especially for your daughters. Make sure that they will see you as someone to look up to. Strive to be someone they can emulate as women and as people in general.
8. Make Them Feel Secure and Safe to Talk to You
Let them approach you whenever they feel comfortable. If in case they have something to say to you, it will be best to give them time to process everything and come to you whenever they feel most comfortable.
Once you are openly talking, take this opportunity to explain to your child what needs to be explained. Whether it is about discipline, romance and any kind of family matters, make sure that they are able to comprehend why you would be making such a decision.
It would help to have your husband beside you when talking to the kids. That way, you both will be able to explain the situation better if ever a problem would arise.
That way, you will not end up losing your child’s trust and having them rebel sooner rather than later.
9. Give Your Children Space and Time
In addition to this, you have to give your child some time to process everything that you tell them. Do not expect them to accept everything you say at face value. Children are inquisitive so be prepared to answer all of their questions as best you can.
If you feel that you can’t really answer the question as clearly as possible, be honest to your child and tell him that you won’t be able to answer the question now. However, also let him know that you will try to find the correct answer.
10. Be Encouraging
Encourage your child to be the best that he can be and you will never go wrong with being a mother. Same goes with your husband, a supportive wife is definitely someone whom he will appreciate.
Do not forget to pray always. Being a mother and wife is not an easy task. However, with God at the center of your lives, everything else will fall into place for sure. If you are unsure of what to do, do not be afraid to ask and your prayers will be answered.